Is it possible for us to see eye to eye, or be of one mind, or be on the same page when we humans are trillions individual universes? Sonder is the topic of today’s Seth Godin Blog
The moment we realize that everyone around us has an internal life of wonder and amazement and disappointments and sorrows we have achieved sonder. No, it’s not probable that we will see an issue the same as the other guy. I’m afraid, they’re afraid. We are each insecure and confident and safe and at risk at the same time and different times. Maybe discussions intent on ending with an agreement are a compilation of concessions back and forth between private, human universes.
Why do some negotiations become contentious? Because multiple views of life, the world, desire, fear, resentment are mingling. My desire for security conflicts with your desire for gain. My fear of losing conflicts with your commitment to winning. You want to win because you desire a pleasure. I don’t want you to win at my expense because I desire happiness.
Maybe I just had my moment of Sonder. Everyone has hopes, plans, desires, fears, feelings of fair treatment, opinions of slights and disrespect. Now what do I do with sonder? I think I will watch and listen.